Do you find yourself voicing this question when you are considering the dating social senior as forty plus single? Personally, I believe that people can and should have fun at every age.
While it is good to find enjoyment in solitude, I think most forty plus singles would agree that the best fun comes out of spending time withmature fun people, and dating can be a wonderful enhancement to your life. There is no need to remarry or get serious with someone. The choice is entirely up to you to set the parameters of what you really want.
So you are single and perphaps a little lonely and you are starting to believe that it is going to stay that way despite your deep desire to meet people and have mature companionship and feel in the social scene again.
Pephaps you don’t feel as attractive as you used to and therefore someone else is unlikely to find you attractive either. Maybe you are worried about what other friends and family would think ? Does any of this sound like that negative voice in your head, evey time you consider online forty plus dating?
If so then the most important thing you need to work on is your confidence, because until you build that up, it will be very difficult to get past this “self pity” trap that we all can easily fall into.
The other advantage to online dating is building up a new social life and developing some new interests is that you are going to also be proving to your kids that you aren’t just a helpless old soul that needs to be taken care of . That’s not what they want you to be so you shouldn’t want it either. You are showing them independence and initiative and that you can take care of yourself. This will hopefully pave the way to an easier acceptance when you re-enter the online dating scene.
Try a new hair cut and a professional colour that really suits your age and colouring. This can enhance your self confidence and brighten not only your phyisical appearence but your mental attitude too.
As far as the new clothing ideas, start with a bit of purging. Get rid of old fashioned and clothing that no longer fits. Get rid of the old unsuitable clothing that you are hanging on to. Try new colours and perphaps a shade or two brighter than you used to wear since your hair and complexion may be different now.
Perhaps you are suffering in lack of confidence, hopefully some of these suggestions will help put you back on track. Start with some changes in your life to get out of the house and meet people and the rest will all follow naturally as you begin to feel better about yourself. And please stop listening to the negative voices that keep floating around your head. Instead think positive so you can get out there and enjoy your forty plus dating. You will be amazed at how wonderful you can feel about yourself.
Jane Hughes xx